The Age Old Tradition of Having A Best Man And A Maid of Honor At A Wedding


Best Man and Maid of Honor

Getting ready to play the role of the best man at a friend’s wedding? Thank you’re lucky stars that it’s the 21st century and not the 17th or 18th century. Life of the best man in those days was way to tougher than what is today. If you think giving a best man speech is the toughest job a best man has to do you need to read this.

Have you ever wondered where the tradition of having a best man and a maid of honor in a wedding came from? Well, you may be surprised to find out that the concept of having a best man dates back to early world, before marriage was a union directed by the church. Having a maid of honor, does not go as far back in time, but it is still a quite old tradition. Although, today the duties of the best man and the maid of honor have changed to conform to present day society, it is still a tradition that has been carried on for many, many years.

Before weddings were about love, they were about conquering. When a man found a woman whom he thought was attractive, he would plan to steal her and make her his bride. Often times, these men would have a small group of men to help with stealing the women. That’s where the concept of having ushers came in to play. In today’s time ushers assist the groom in many of the wedding task and help with seating. The best man in modern weddings is typically a witness to the ceremony, and helps with any business the groom needs to attend to. In historical times, the “best man” was more of the-right-hand-man in stealing the bride. He would be the person that helped the groom get to the bride while all the “ushers” kept the bride’s family away.

The concept of the maid of honor came to play after the church took over marriages. In the beginning, weddings usually took place in the bride’s home. The maid of honor would be a trustworthy family servant that would help the bride in the days before the wedding. The typical duties consisted of dressing the bride and helping with decorations. The role of the maid of honor has not changed much since then. In modern weddings, the maid of honor is also a witness to the wedding; but since times have changed and most people no longer have servants, the maid of honor is a close friend or relative of the bride.

The times have definitely changed since the concept of a wedding party first arose. In weddings of today, some people may choose to not even have a maid of honor or a best man, but the history behind the concept is quite interesting. Thankfully, the best man is no longer responsible for keeping the groom safe while he steals his bride, but instead he keeps him safe in the weeks before the wedding. The maid of honor’s roles have not changed much, but it is a nice tradition to have someone close to you help with the important details of one of the most important days of your life.

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